on the politics of possession
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Dear Elizabeth Moon,
I do not have words or time enough to fully express the depth of my NO. Other people have made some excellent points- although you have predictably deleted the comment threads I was also going to link- but since the purported subject of your post is citizenship, I'm going to stick to that. Keep this in mind: I don't, actually, want or need to hear your answers. I find your opinions to be self-evident and I have no interest in your self-defenses because in the end, this isn't about you anyway. I am responding to your post because it happens to be the last straw for me, here and now, and because in the face of countless vitriolic variations I have had to bite my tongue. Silence, you see, has weight and cost, and I live in constant awareness of both.
I am an immigrant and a citizen of the United States. My parents and I have been naturalized for ten years. I have few memories of that process, but lest you believe that naturalization is not fraught with bureaucratic and systematic pitfalls, think again: I distinctly remember the clerk telling me to "write your name, whatever people call you" on my certificate of citizenship. (For the record, it is precisely this sort of comment that leads people like me back to the Department of Motor Vehicles over and over and over again when trying to obtain their driver's license. I was one of the lucky ones- all of the names on my documents matched, and I only had to go back four times for reasons completely unrelated to my driving skills.) My sister was born on US soil; citizenship is her birthright.
By your definition, we are citizens, correct? We are now "American," therefore the term belongs to us! Except that every day I live with the reality that it does not. Not once in the twenty-odd years we've been living here have we ever passed as citizens, or even as the resident aliens (oh, loaded term) that my parents and I used to be, without showing government identification. Not when my sister and I open our mouths on "perfect" US-East-Coast-accented English, though we do so every day; not in our own hometown, where a passing driver thought it was perfectly acceptable to curse out my father in front of me (I was maybe five at the time, and was confused for years afterward as to why "Chinaman" was considered a dirty word); not even in New York City, where a stranger I encountered in Central Park last summer told me to "go back to China"... and promptly followed that shockingly unoriginal gem up with "China's a nice town." I find it easier to embrace and explore my Chineseness than I do my Americanness, because there is a chasm between the reality of my identity and the perception of what is American that I do not know how to cross, that I cannot cross alone. Because citizenship, like identity, requires a negotiation between lived experience and perception. Because true citizenship, to me, is a matter of mutual respect and acknowledgment more than it is a legal status; because last I checked, belonging wasn't a unilateral decision.
These are just words, I can hear you thinking it already (astonishing how often that happens with writers), but let me ask you this: should I be more grateful that I only suffer the lesser symptoms of a greater problem, instead of being angry that the greater problem exists? Before you say yes or no, but, consider: the burden of proof- to show that we belong here, that we deserve to be included in your American- is always on us. No matter how long we have been here, no matter how long-established our communities are, no matter that we have sacrificed our mother-tongues and histories and names upon the altar of your assimilationist melting-pot ideals, no matter that we have worked and bled and died to serve this nation, people will always believe that we are- or should be- "going home." (I will say this much now: "home" is a more complicated concept for us than you can ever know.) Perhaps you think it is right and fair to test our loyalty to this nation when we "belong" to more than one, or perhaps you think the ends of national security justify the means; but even I can tell you that on any given day, the security that you so prize does not exist for everyone.
You say that "the business of a citizen is the welfare of the nation," and in broad strokes (and insofar as my community is considered part of the nation) I agree that this is so. However, I also believe that the business of a nation is the welfare of its citizens, and that the latter takes precedence over the former. If I love my country, if I want to serve my country, and it does nothing to recognize me; if politicians and legislators and members of the judiciary continue to ignore and overlook the needs of my people, should I still grant the welfare of the nebulous "nation" sovereignty over my life? Should I expend all my efforts in support of the comfortable majority even as my minority community and those of my friends and family members continue to struggle against the injustices of their daily lived experiences? Is this a sustainable, an equitable relationship? I say no, it is not. I say that a patriotism that only demands and never asks, only takes and never offers, is at least as terrible a thing as a love-relationship that does the same. I say that you should look at what national institutions have previously done to us, at what the state is trying to do today, before you dare to judge us for prioritizing the welfare of our own communities. Will you tell me now that awareness of these- yes, American- histories "unfits" me for citizenship?
You are a writer; considering the weight of your words is only a logical expectation, and so I will ask you to consider these. You call us "insular" for choosing to walk in safer spaces, for putting ourselves first when we have been shown repeatedly that no one else will. You accuse us of being "racist" and "hypocritical" (and if this is subtext it is only in name) for espousing the bigoted attitudes so often spread and instilled in us as a matter of survival by the very social institutions you believe we should support. You say that all immigrants should be "good citizens," aspire to be like my minority- the model minority, perceived to be silent and obedient and hardworking- as if this status is desirable, and exacts no price. You speak of freedom as if it is a thing to be earned, something we cannot aspire to unless we subscribe to your particular definitions of it.
Here's the thing, Ms. Moon: I don't actually care that it is you who are speaking this time around. But I cannot count the number of people I have heard say these exact same things. These are words, just words, after all; surely repetition has no effect; I should be grateful instead of angry; things could be worse, certainly. Yes. Of course. But I have swallowed enough gratitude and enough anger to know which I will choose.
I do not have words or time enough to fully express the depth of my NO. Other people have made some excellent points- although you have predictably deleted the comment threads I was also going to link- but since the purported subject of your post is citizenship, I'm going to stick to that. Keep this in mind: I don't, actually, want or need to hear your answers. I find your opinions to be self-evident and I have no interest in your self-defenses because in the end, this isn't about you anyway. I am responding to your post because it happens to be the last straw for me, here and now, and because in the face of countless vitriolic variations I have had to bite my tongue. Silence, you see, has weight and cost, and I live in constant awareness of both.
I am an immigrant and a citizen of the United States. My parents and I have been naturalized for ten years. I have few memories of that process, but lest you believe that naturalization is not fraught with bureaucratic and systematic pitfalls, think again: I distinctly remember the clerk telling me to "write your name, whatever people call you" on my certificate of citizenship. (For the record, it is precisely this sort of comment that leads people like me back to the Department of Motor Vehicles over and over and over again when trying to obtain their driver's license. I was one of the lucky ones- all of the names on my documents matched, and I only had to go back four times for reasons completely unrelated to my driving skills.) My sister was born on US soil; citizenship is her birthright.
By your definition, we are citizens, correct? We are now "American," therefore the term belongs to us! Except that every day I live with the reality that it does not. Not once in the twenty-odd years we've been living here have we ever passed as citizens, or even as the resident aliens (oh, loaded term) that my parents and I used to be, without showing government identification. Not when my sister and I open our mouths on "perfect" US-East-Coast-accented English, though we do so every day; not in our own hometown, where a passing driver thought it was perfectly acceptable to curse out my father in front of me (I was maybe five at the time, and was confused for years afterward as to why "Chinaman" was considered a dirty word); not even in New York City, where a stranger I encountered in Central Park last summer told me to "go back to China"... and promptly followed that shockingly unoriginal gem up with "China's a nice town." I find it easier to embrace and explore my Chineseness than I do my Americanness, because there is a chasm between the reality of my identity and the perception of what is American that I do not know how to cross, that I cannot cross alone. Because citizenship, like identity, requires a negotiation between lived experience and perception. Because true citizenship, to me, is a matter of mutual respect and acknowledgment more than it is a legal status; because last I checked, belonging wasn't a unilateral decision.
These are just words, I can hear you thinking it already (astonishing how often that happens with writers), but let me ask you this: should I be more grateful that I only suffer the lesser symptoms of a greater problem, instead of being angry that the greater problem exists? Before you say yes or no, but, consider: the burden of proof- to show that we belong here, that we deserve to be included in your American- is always on us. No matter how long we have been here, no matter how long-established our communities are, no matter that we have sacrificed our mother-tongues and histories and names upon the altar of your assimilationist melting-pot ideals, no matter that we have worked and bled and died to serve this nation, people will always believe that we are- or should be- "going home." (I will say this much now: "home" is a more complicated concept for us than you can ever know.) Perhaps you think it is right and fair to test our loyalty to this nation when we "belong" to more than one, or perhaps you think the ends of national security justify the means; but even I can tell you that on any given day, the security that you so prize does not exist for everyone.
You say that "the business of a citizen is the welfare of the nation," and in broad strokes (and insofar as my community is considered part of the nation) I agree that this is so. However, I also believe that the business of a nation is the welfare of its citizens, and that the latter takes precedence over the former. If I love my country, if I want to serve my country, and it does nothing to recognize me; if politicians and legislators and members of the judiciary continue to ignore and overlook the needs of my people, should I still grant the welfare of the nebulous "nation" sovereignty over my life? Should I expend all my efforts in support of the comfortable majority even as my minority community and those of my friends and family members continue to struggle against the injustices of their daily lived experiences? Is this a sustainable, an equitable relationship? I say no, it is not. I say that a patriotism that only demands and never asks, only takes and never offers, is at least as terrible a thing as a love-relationship that does the same. I say that you should look at what national institutions have previously done to us, at what the state is trying to do today, before you dare to judge us for prioritizing the welfare of our own communities. Will you tell me now that awareness of these- yes, American- histories "unfits" me for citizenship?
You are a writer; considering the weight of your words is only a logical expectation, and so I will ask you to consider these. You call us "insular" for choosing to walk in safer spaces, for putting ourselves first when we have been shown repeatedly that no one else will. You accuse us of being "racist" and "hypocritical" (and if this is subtext it is only in name) for espousing the bigoted attitudes so often spread and instilled in us as a matter of survival by the very social institutions you believe we should support. You say that all immigrants should be "good citizens," aspire to be like my minority- the model minority, perceived to be silent and obedient and hardworking- as if this status is desirable, and exacts no price. You speak of freedom as if it is a thing to be earned, something we cannot aspire to unless we subscribe to your particular definitions of it.
Here's the thing, Ms. Moon: I don't actually care that it is you who are speaking this time around. But I cannot count the number of people I have heard say these exact same things. These are words, just words, after all; surely repetition has no effect; I should be grateful instead of angry; things could be worse, certainly. Yes. Of course. But I have swallowed enough gratitude and enough anger to know which I will choose.
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Date: 2010-09-17 10:47 pm (UTC)I admire your ability to convey strong emotion, especially anger, and at the same time a thoughtful consideration of the ideas that matter here. Bravissima.
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Date: 2010-09-18 02:35 am (UTC)And... heh. I'm glad this spoke to you; I spent considerable time blowing off steam before I could get anywhere near coherence, ngl.
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Date: 2010-09-18 03:04 am (UTC)Thank you for writing this. I wish you didn't have to.
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Date: 2010-09-18 03:07 am (UTC)Thanks for this poignant, eloquent reply. It's so full of truth that it rends at one's heart.
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Date: 2010-09-18 12:28 pm (UTC)I have to be honest and say that I didn't fully read Ms. Moon's piece, as I saw where it was heading and have no time for drivel, but your response, on the other hand, is eloquent and direct and should be required reading.
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Date: 2010-09-19 04:11 am (UTC)Prejudice and profiling come in many forms.
My mother (in her 70's) has a friend of her own age, born to American-born parents and raised in Phoenix, Arizona. Her first name, the only one she has ever had, is Jane. Because her ancestry is Chinese, she gets asked where she is from. "Phoenix, Arizona," she will say. No, where is she from?
I'm sure this is all too familiar to you.
With these examples before me, I assume someone I meet is American, no matter what their face or name, or accent, unless I have good reason (like a foreign passport prominently displayed, or a name tag that reads "HELLO My name is Ambassador So-and-so").
I hope that this eloquent piece reaches many people, and sensitizes them to the scope and nature of the problem!
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Date: 2010-09-19 03:26 pm (UTC)have my keysmash of *_____* and ;_________; and <33333333
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Date: 2010-09-21 12:19 am (UTC)I wish it was just a joke.
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