this is what i would say to you.

setissma has an excellent post about backing each other up that covers everything I want to say about recent events (linkspam below).

As for personal responsibility, since other people have covered the topic so comprehensively, I will simply add this: I hold myself accountable for the things that I have said and done and not done.*

I speak when I'm angry because rage often clarifies my thoughts, but sometimes my words cut unintentionally. I know it has happened before, and because I know myself, I know it will happen again. I take responsibility for that, I'm working on changing things, and I apologize for the harm I have done, unwittingly or not. I hold myself accountable, because I cannot back you up or support you fully if I do not also check myself. If you feel unsafe, I want to work towards safety, whenever I can and as much as I can, no matter what.

*I do not mean to speak to victims, here. You are not to blame. You have done nothing wrong.

Linkspam, mostly for personal reference; ( trigger warning applies )